ANNOTATION

Grandma Sallie [a/k/a Sarah, born Zoli], who claimed she’d gotten virtually zero parenting lodged in close tenement quarters with many other siblings and two hard-working parents, doted on my father.  And yet she felt compelled to remind him that her own resentment had never/would never go away–if she was giving him what she’d never received, it was purely discretionary on her part, and could be pulled out right from under him at any moment. Love and parenting as mixed message.